The Horse Who Wouldn’t Change Direction: Can You?

Posted by on Oct 3, 2016 in Change |

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The story goes that the filmmakers of Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil wanted a horse and buggy in a scene.  They were filming at one of the many wonderful squares in Savannah that are ringed by one way traffic.  For some creative agenda they rerouted traffic to come the other way for the shot.  But the horse would have none of it.  They tried all kinds of ways to get the horse to travel the opposite direction, but with no success. He (or she) knew which way was the “right” way.

I heard that story in Savannah last week while on a horse and buggy tour with my husband – since he can’t walk very far anymore we knew one of the highly recommended walking tours of the city was out. So we chose another way.  Unlike the horse.

Turns out the horse in the story was, in fact, in the movie.  He was just standing still in the background.

How often does the same thing happen to all of us?  We get used to doing something a certain way and get a fixed pattern in our minds that that is the “right” way.  We may even lose the ability to perceive other ways.  We may resist when someone creative comes along with new ideas that wants us to go a different way.   Or we’re the creative one with the new idea and someone else is resisting.

I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had over the last several months about driverless cars, with people telling me how it won’t happen.  How they wouldn’t want to be in a car without a driver.  How if they’re going to be hit by a car, they want to be hit by a car with a driver, not a driverless car.    Really?

It is certainly more comfortable to keep doing things the same way.  My husband and I have been traveling the last few months, for work, for family and friend visits, etc.  We’ve had to adjust to lots of different beds and bathrooms.  Without even thinking we take the same side of the bed that we’d have at home, even though there is no reason for it except the familiar is more comfortable.

I’ve decided that I want to see where I might be stuck going one way, missing out on opportunities, efficiencies, possibilities. Where I might believe I can’t go another way. Maybe if I start little, like wearing my watch on the opposite hand, or taking different roads to work, or asking different questions, perhaps I can build up a skill set around seeing other ways to do things.

How about you?  Are you stuck going in one direction? What can you do about it?  Or will you be like the horse in the movie, and end up just standing still.